Who feels like the worst mom ever at least once a week, if not once a day? I certainly do! We all screw up once in a while.
Ways I have screwed up as a mom this week:
Dropped my daughter back off at college and drove away without making sure she got inside. Got home 45 minutes later to find 4 missed calls and 5 text messages from her. She had ran through the parking lot, waving her arms trying to catch me because the ceiling above her desk had caved in from a water leak! I never looked in the rear view mirror because I was already busy thinking of the next 10 things on my “to do” list.
Pretty sure my 3rd grader ate pizza bagels every night this week for dinner. Except the night she ate a piece of bread with nut butter in the car on the way from dance to girl scouts and then had a bowl of cereal when we got home later that night. On a side note, not even sure my 15 year old son even ate dinner this week. I stopped asking because I always get the answer “not now!”
Checked my son’s grades online every day this week because the quarter ends next week and I am worried his biology grade will go down even more. But I only asked him about his grade once this week instead of 20, so I consider that a mom score.
Ignored and/or shushed the 3rd grader every time she opened her mouth to talk about “Five Nights at Freddy’s” because if I have to listen to one more thing about that ridiculously stupid game I will scream!
The Take Away:
So why did I just spend all of that time telling some of the ways I screwed up this week? Because we all screw up. No one is perfect, and if they tell you they are, they are lying! There are so many blogs and articles telling you how to be a good mom. But guess what? There is no blueprint to the perfect life or family. We are all different and our situations are all different. What works for one mom will not work for another because our kids are not the same. My kids thrive on independence while other kids need constant structure. Quit listening to everyone else and trust your mommy instincts.
I don’t stress (or at least try not to) because I think I am raising some pretty amazing kids. I haven’t messed them up yet. My kids are picky eaters so I feed them what they will eat. I check my kid’s grades online so that I can keep up to date and help him if there is a problem. Like a missing assignment he might not know about. My daughter managed the ceiling crisis just fine on her own. The maintenance men were there already fixing the water problem and moved most of her stuff before the cave in. Did I feel horrible for not looking back? You bet I did, but I tried to shake it off.
Don’t just fixate on the negative, celebrate the positive!
Here are some great things that happened this week! My son has all A’s (except for Biology) and my daughter is the assistant stage manager for the musical at her college. Callie, my youngest, forgot she wasn’t supposed to ride the bus home. But when she got home to an empty house and locked door, she remembered what I told her to do and went to the neighbor’s house to wait for me. All successes in my book.
So what did you screw up this week? I would love to hear about it. It reassures us that we are not alone! But be sure to also tell me something the went right this week too!