How to Bring Balance to Your Life?

Here is where I get real. I feel like I am drowning. Not just drowning but failing at everything I try. I know we all feel this way at times. Like you have so much you are trying to get done and only doing all of them halfway. Or if you try supper hard at one thing then all of the others start to fall apart. Why is it so hard to find balance in our lives?

My friends have told me that I am trying to do too much, but what do you stop doing completely in order to focus on something else? The kids, the house, the blog (which I am hoping to to make a successful stream of income), the husband, myself? What do I drop? Nothing, so I keep giving everything half of what it deserves and feeling like a failure at everything.

Wow, that sounds dramatic. Which I do have a flare for sometimes, but I felt so optimistic when 2018 started. New year, new me! This is they year I will get it all together. Blah, blah, blah. Then we hit January 2nd, then January 3rd and then I hit a wall. And look now it’s January 11th, and I am still banging my head against the same wall.

I love my family and my blog and my house and my friends, but I don’t feel like I am doing a great job maintaining any of them. Maybe it is motivation or anxiety or fear. Or maybe all three, but I need to figure out how to balance it all without dropping one of the invisible balls that I am juggling.

Organization is the key to balance! (or so I thought)

I love lists so of course I thought a detailed schedule using time blocking and a lovely list of “to dos”would solve my issues . But the “to do” list just keeps getting longer, and I can’t seem to get a hang of the time blocking. I see how it works in theory, but I am struggling to implement it into my life.

Daily Planner and Time Blocking. How to Bring Balance to Your Life? MyStory-MyBlog.com

For those of who have never heard of time blocking. You take your day and look at all of the hours you are awake. And assign each minute to what you are supposed to be doing. So I tried using highlighters to block out the time I have to be out of the house for errands or appointments with yellow. You have to make sure to account for travel time too. Then you take the remaining time and assign each half hour or hour with a purpose. Like cleaning or working on the blog or watching tv or reading or exercising.

Daily Planner up close with time blocking. How to Bring Balance to Your Life? MyStory-MyBlog.com

It is designed to help you stay on task better, but it isn’t as easy as it sounds. What if I am writing a new blog post and it takes me longer than the allotted 1 hour. Do I keep going and cut into my cleaning hour? Or do I stop writing and move on to the next task?

I am not sure this method is the answer to bringing balance to my life but if it isn’t, then what is? I would love to hear from you, if you have a strategy on how to stay organized and on task. We all need a little help every once in awhile!

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5 Comments

  1. I would love an answer to this one to Laura. I feel I am doing such a horrible job at many things and once I focus on one then the others get even worse!!

    1. It is so hard. I have no idea how to balance everything. I focus on my blog and the house looks like a tornado hit it. There are not enough hours in the day! Thank you for commenting!

  2. This blog brought me to tears!
    Truth= finding balance in life IS hard. As women, and moms, we think we have to do it all….oftentimes, losing ourselves in the process. 😢It pains me to see you struggling; trying to do all the things! You know how I feel about busy. Let go of the expectation that things need to be organized, controlled, perfect….and that you need to do (and be) all the things! Social media can make this so hard because oftentimes we see others (seemingly) perfectly balanced, happy life. Many won’t share what you’re willing to here in your blog! I applaud you for that! But friend, you don’t have to stop/give up anything COMPLETELY!
    💕Some is better than none!💕

    You mention:
    Kids- they are old enough to not need you all the time. Let them do things for themselves. If they “fail”, they’ll learn for next time. You’ve raised them well; trust in that, and them! Maybe ask them what matters most to them. You might be surprised. It’s often times not what we think! 😉

    House- let (*make) the kids help. Give yourself grace; accept that things don’t have to be clean, and organized ALL the time.Or that it needs done now!

    Friends- Those blessed with your friendship surely appreciate you! And we understand that you’re a mom and busy. *Friends HELP friends! YOU just have to learn to accept. 😉

    Blog- This is IMPORTANT to you! So this is an area to focus on and allow yourself extra time for. And again, if there’s anything you need help with on this, don’t hesitate to reach out.

    Bryan- It’s so easy to get lost navigating through a marriage with work schedules, kids, and everything else- isn’t it?!? Keep your communication open, and make each other a priority. It’s inportant for kids to see, for your health, and your sanity. 😉 How does he feel about things? What you find important, and/or stress over, may not mean so much to him. Likewise, let him know what you want and need! And make him help you in life! (I mean, he did take that vow! 💍)

    Lastly, yourself! Girlfriend!!!!! YOU should be at the top!!!!🙌🏻 😘 Make yourself, and your health a priority! It makes making time for everything (and everyone) else that much easier, and enjoyable!

    I’d say to stop stressing over time blocking, etc. Maybe use the time it takes to write that out, to do something more enjoyable. Enjoy a good book, time with loved ones, a quick workout (ok,maybe that’s not more enjoyable!😝)

    Let life flow less controlled, do more of what you love! Stress IS the #1 killer, after all!

    Hugs 🤗

    1. Thank you Felicia!I guess after reading your comments, I realized that maybe my issue is that I want it all. I want my kids to have every experience they want and I want them to grow up knowing they were my everything.I want an awesome money making blog, I want a clean organized home, I want a good relationship with my husband. I want it all but have no idea how to have it all. It all doesn’t have to be perfect. That is not what i am striving for. I just need to figure out how to make it all fit. Thank you for your encouraging comments!

      1. Your wants are all valid, normal. If you ask, most people would list many of the same. (🙋‍♀️) Oftentimes we already have our wants though, just not in the capacity we think they should be. So we’re left unsatisfied…wanting more. You have a clean home, just not as clean as you would like. You give your kids plenty, but it sounds like you don’t feel it’s enough. It’s ok if they can’t do, or have it all though. Less is more😉 But, if it’s important to you, then focus on making that happen for them….and maybe let the housework slide, or volunteer less (or whatever it might be), or get them to help so you’re not so stressed and can enjoy more experiences; more quality time. I’m almost certain that if they were ased if they know they are your everything, they would say yes!!! You’re doing amazing- don’t doubt that!

        Your blog will come, in time! And if it doesn’t, that’s ok too! Try not to get discouraged. 😀

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